Victim's Support

How do I Recognise Stalking?

Identifying the wide spectrum of stalking behaviour

Stalkers will use a variety of different behaviours: endearing, loving, nasty, threatening, violent.

Below are some of the most common stalking behaviours but it is stressed that this list is non-exhaustive.

Stalking behaviour includes:

  • Following, surveillance, spying
  • Standing, loitering around your home, school, place of work etc.
  • Verbal abuse or public humiliation
  • Unsolicited mail, postcards, photographs, gifts from the endearing to the bizarre
  • Repeatedly texting / emailing / leaving voicemails
  • Planting spyware, viruses into your computer
  • Hacking into your computer, email, social media accounts
  • Spreading rumours, discrediting
  • Threats / violence against you, your family, friends or pets
  • Damage to property, stealing your belongings
  • Physical violence, sexual assault, rape, murder
  • Attempting to take the children away, limit access by making false allegations or engaging in parental alienation
  • "Befriending" your friends, family to get closer to you
  • Stealing and disturbing post / mail
  • Going through rubbish bins; leaving offensive material in the garden
  • Breaking into your car, home or office
  • Interfering, damaging personal belongings
  • Threatening your freedom by making false allegations to the police
  • Blackmail - Threatening to divulge information that would be harmful to you
  • Invading your personal space by standing too close or brushing against you
  • Ordering unwanted goods to be delivered to your house
  • Seeking physical proximity by applying for jobs where you work; joining your gym / church / professional / social / sports groups or clubs; moving into your neighbourhood or building etc.
  • Leaving or sending threatening objects
  • Ordering goods in your name and your address
  • Identity theft - pretending to be you
  • Running up debt in your name
  • Cyber stalking and bullying - social networks, websites, online forums, online chat rooms, instant messaging

More information can also be found in the following areas of this website:

If you or someone you know feel you are in danger, please contact us on if you need our support. We will respond within a very short time. Also please view the list of helplines in our Helplines section of this website.